Excessive Praise May Actually Be Harmful to Children

    Over the years, more and more research has focused on the effects of praise across a variety of situations. Praise has been used as a motivator and it often acts as a reward for children, but recent research raises questions about the effects of excessive praise on children's behavior. Turns out that excessive praise may be detrimental to children with low self-esteem. Adults are twice as likely to use excessive praise towards children with low self-esteem, in comparison to children with high self-esteem. This makes sense because adults often want to give additional praise to the children that seem to need it most, however, this appears to have the opposite effect on children with low self-esteem.
    In one recent study, children drew a Van Gogh picture, and were either given: inflated praise (e.g. "You did an incredibly great job!"), non-inflated praise (e.g. "You did a great job!"), or no praise by a professional painter. Then, children were given the choice to draw one of two types of pictures: an easier picture where they wouldn't learn much, or a difficult picture where they would make lots of mistakes but would also learn a lot. Children with low self-esteem who received inflated praise were more likely to choose the easier picture to draw.
    So what exactly is inflated praise doing to children with low self-esteem? Praise sends a message about future standards and expectations. When a child with low self-esteem hears excessive, inflated praise, they feel that they must do exceptionally well or else they will disappoint others, therefore they shy away from challenges that could result in failure. So, it seems that, like with many things, the best practice is to praise in moderation - don't overdo it.

    To learn more about these studies and what others are saying about them, please visit the following links:

“Stop Heaping Praise on Your Kids”  

http://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/on-parenting/stop-heaping-praise-on-your-kids/2014/01/06/84a9a2fe-7710-11e3-8963-b4b654bcc9b2_story.html

“When Praise Hurts: The Psychology of Gushing”

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/wray-herbert/when-praise-hurts-the-psy_b_4269342.html